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Noise~Five Minute Friday

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“Take control of what I say, O LORD, and guard my lips.” Psalm 141:3

Without Love

When this young, aspiring musician received his first set of drums, he put all his energy into becoming a cymbal virtuoso. Each time he picked up his sticks he’d use them to pummel those metal discs causing the room and me to seemingly vibrate! I could only take the cymbal noise for so long though before I had to cover my ears for protection and sometimes, I’d even have to leave the room.

Being at my grandson’s “rock concert” isn’t the only time I’ve experienced too much noise.The reverberation of words written or spoken by others have also caused me to pull away. Anyone else ever have someone want you to believe what they’re saying comes from a place of care, but the reality is, they tear you down to build themselves up? 

And how about social media? Edward Bulwer-Lytton said back in the 1800’s, “The pen is mightier than the sword.” He meant it in a very positive way. In our case, it can be said that the keyboard is mightier than the sword and it’s NOT so good at all.  We just have to glance in the comment sections of our own accounts or those of someone else’s to see that when using a screen as a shield, sharp words are easy to thrust into another’s heart.

Harsh words. Clang! Derogatory words. Bang! Threatening words. Crash! The vibration of unkind words in our feeds, on TV, or between people who don’t agree on something can fill our ears, our minds and our lives. I don’t know about you, but battered by it all, I sometimes just have to block out all the noise and leave the “room”. 

“If I could speak all the languages of earth and of angels, 

but didn’t love others, I would only be

 a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal.”

1 Corinthians 13:1(NLT)

Before I move on I must tell you that I have been a “noisy gong or a clanging cymbal” myself more times than I’d like to admit. Maybe not as publicly as some, but in my mind or within a small trusted circle my “sticks” have bashed someone else. Why? I wasn’t speaking out of love. And that’s what we’re missing so much of the time today isn’t it? Love for one another.

It’s difficult for me to comprehend sometimes how freely foul language, hurtful words, and provokable dialog have replaced manners, common sense, and compassion. I guess some may say that I sound old and maybe I do, but it doesn’t change the fact that noisy gongs and clanging cymbals do nothing to create harmony to the ensemble of those around us or to our own souls.

I’ve already written past the suggested five minutes and I could probably continue on for quite awhile about my worries for the world and the future world of my grandsons, but in the end I still wouldn’t have answers for how to quell the negative cacophony being broadcast around us everyday. HOWEVER, I can do something about putting my sticks down and silencing my own part in it. Want to join me and put yours down too?

“Don’t use foul or abusive language. 

Let everything you say be good and helpful, 

so that your words will be encouragement to those who hear them.

Ephesians 4:29 (NLT) 

The Bible is full of guidance about the power of the words we say and how not to use our tongue as a weapon, but, “Let everything you say be good and helpful” pretty much says it all. I desire to make this my normal rhythm and to put it into practice I’ve been trying to “skip a beat” and pause before I respond verbally or before hitting send. Believe me, I’m still a work in progress but to help I’ve been stopping to ask myself first, “Is this going to add anything positive to the conversation?” Secondly, and maybe most importantly, “Would I say this if I was standing in front of the person I’m talking about or to?” Let me tell you, the delete button has been my friend! Maybe you know exactly what I mean. 

Here’s the hard truth: it doesn’t matter how much we think we know, how deeply we believe, or how convinced we are that we’re right, if we don’t convey our message with love for one another, we’re just making a lot of noise in world already full of gongs and cymbals that are so loud we want to cover our ears. So what do we do instead? Let’s ask God to help us be music to the ears of those listening, our words spoken with this kind of love:

“Love is patient; love is kind.

Love isn’t envious, doesn’t boast, brag, or strut about.

There’s no arrogance in love; 

it’s never rude, crude, or indecent-

it’s not self-absorbed.

Love isn’t easily upset.

Love doesn’t tally wrongs or celebrate injustice;

but truth-yes-truth-is love’s delight!”

1 Corinthians 13:4-6 (The Voice)

And even when we (I) know all of this and STILL are tempted to pick up the drum sticks? I’m learning we need to ultimately let these Words inspire us to lay them back down:

“May the words of my mouth

 and the meditation of my heart

 be pleasing to you, O LORD, my rock and my redeemer.”

Psalm 19:14 (NLT)

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Some~Five Minute Friday

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“And do everything with love.” 1 Corinthians 16:14

Be the Somebody

There’s an old song from my younger years that had a chorus that said, “Don’t you want somebody to love? Don’t you need somebody to love? Wouldn’t you love somebody to love?” And don’t we need that? Somebody to love? That’s my challenge for us today, let’s:

Be the somebody!

After our grandson had a medical emergency and our daughter and son-in-love stayed at the Ronald McDonald House while he was hospitalized for three months, we desired to give  something back to the place that provided so much comfort and convenience for our “kids” during that time of anguish. That’s when we asked others to help us collect pop tabs which we’d learned the Ronald McDonald House uses to help pay their electric bill. 

The response has been amazing! A baggie full here. A plastic container full there. A cardboard box-full left on the porch. And three years later, they just keep coming!

“Don’t you want somebody to love? Don’t you need somebody to love? Wouldn’t you love somebody to love?”

Recently, my husband shared that he thought one of the best definitions of love he’s seen is…a pop tab. Bet you’ve never thought of love that way before! He went on to explain that “somebody” must first think about our family, next, take the action of removing the tab from the can, then be dedicated to saving them, and finally offer their gift to our family. 

“Dear children, let’s not merely say that we love each other;
let us show the truth by our actions.”
1 John 3:18 (NLT)

And that’s “the truth” we see in a simple pop tab. All it takes is somebody to love.

If you’re like me, you’ve made it a lot more complicated than that. There have been times I’ve talked myself right out of offering a gift of love to others. Oh, I convince myself there’s good reason. I don’t have enough to offer. I don’t have the time. Or the easiest of all: Somebody else will do it.

“There is no greater love than to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.”
John 15:13 (NLT)

True love does take thought, time, and action. They are the very things that can interfere with our own plans and agenda. But, when we lay those “things of life” down, to give to someone else? That’s when Jesus, the One who knows all about laying down life, truly shines through. 

“Don’t you want somebody to love? Don’t you need somebody to love? Wouldn’t you love somebody to love?”

We know this world is in desperate need of love. You may even be thinking of a person you know who would love, love right now. There are a few who have come to my mind. So, my challenge for today and tomorrow, and the next, stands, let’s:

Be the somebody!

Send the card, provide a meal, donate the money, send a text, order flowers, pick up the groceries, or yes, remember to pull the pop tab off the can.

“So now I am giving you a new commandment: Love each other. Just as I have loved you, you should love each other. Your love for one another will prove to the world that you are my disciples.”
John 13:34-35 (NLT)

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Day 11/31: Mirror

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“As a face is reflected in water, so the heart reflects the real person.” Proverbs 27:19 (NLT)

Day 11: Mirror #writetogether31days

It’s funny how differently I picture myself compared to the reflection looking back at me in the mirror. I can go along thinking time has treated me well and then, I catch a glimpse of someone I’m not always prepared for. All those features that I’ve wished I could change seem magnified to catch my attention. The lines and age spots across my face are illuminated like they’re the stars of the show. And those gray roots? Together they seem almost to glow like a neon sign saying “help needed.” Sometimes, I just can’t believe my eyes and it’s hard to love what I see.

I hate to admit it, but I can cast a critical eye on what’s mirrored in the world and those around me too. My focus may be on things I think should be changed, wrinkles in character, off-colored behavior, and it affects my perception. Then there are times when I notice that more is showing than should be and others when I wonder what’s being covered up. Sometimes, I believe my eyes too much and it makes it hard to love those I see.

“Now we see things imperfectly, like puzzling reflections in a mirror, but then we will see everything with perfect clarity. All that I know now is partial and incomplete, but then I will know everything completely, just as God now knows me completely. Three things will last forever-faith, hope, and love-and the greatest of these is love.”
1 Corinthians 13:12-13 (NLT)

I’m learning that it’s important to remember whether looking at myself or at others, my perspective is imperfect. Maybe yours is too. Just as if looking in a mirror, we view things now in a backward-human way, not as God beholds them. One day when “we will see everything with perfect clarity,” those things that make us feel different or that we use to divide us today will be celebrated simply as unique creations. Until then, challenging as it may be, we need to open the eyes of our hearts and let God be what others see reflected back. 

“This is real love-not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as a sacrifice to take away our sins. Dear friends, since God loved us that much, we surely ought to love each other.” 1 John 4:10-11 (NLT)

“Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It doesn’t not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.”
1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (NLT)

Music ~ Five Minute Friday

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“But as for me, I will sing about your power. Each morning I will sing with joy about your unfailing love. For you have been my refuge, a place of safety when I am in distress.” Psalm 59:16

Name That Tune

For the first time in a long time wrens have taken up residence in the house I have just for them. How do I know they’ve moved in you ask? Wrens have no problem making themselves known. 

Do you remember the show, “Name That Tune” where contestants challenged one another with how few notes it would take for them to identify a song? As a music lover I enjoyed playing along. You too? There are songs that even today when I hear the first few notes I can immediately start singing along with, or when listening to just a couple words of the lyrics I’m able to identify the artist, sometimes those introductory beats can take me right back to another place and time and to exactly how I was feeling when I heard it. Well, that’s how it is with a wren’s song too. It doesn’t take too many shrill notes for me to recognize the song, who’s singing it, and how they are feeling about having found their place.

Thinking about it, those around us whether they are music lovers or not should be able to identify our “tune” very quickly too. As Christians, our lives should sing a song of mercy, love, and grace on repeat.

“He has given me a new song to sing, a hymn of praise to our God. Many will see what he has done and be amazed. They will put their trust in the LORD.”
Psalm 40:3 (NLT)

When we are standing in the looooong, sloooooow line at the Wal-Mart checkout lane what tone will the audience in front and behind us overhear and identify quickly? Sitting in an overcrowded, understaffed restaurant hungrily waiting for food, who will the patrons identify as the as the One (or not) behind our words? Tired, stressed, stretched to our limit, where will our biggest fans, those who matter the most to us be taken to, a place of harmony or dis-chord? It will depend on who our heart is beating in rhythm with.

“Let the message about Christ, in all its richness, fill your lives. Teach and counsel each other with all the wisdom he gives. Sing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs to God with thankful hearts. And whatever you do or say, do it as a representative of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks through him to God the Father.”
Colossians 3:16-17 (NLT)

I guess what I’m saying (and learning) is that we need to be like a wren. It shouldn’t take long for others to recognize the “new song” we sing, determine whose we are as we sing it, and that we’ve thankfully found a place provided just for us.. We shouldn’t have any problem making it known who we are: brothers and sisters in Christ. How you ask? Well, I can name that tune in one note……

“By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”
John 13:35 (NIV)

A “LOVE-NOTE” of course! And that one note my friends, will be music to the world’s ears! Let’s invite them to sing along!

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Facts ~ Write 28 Days

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“This is love: not that we loved God, but that He loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins.” 1 John 4:10


Simple Facts

Trivial Pursuit is not my game of choice. The few times I’ve attempted to play it has only confirmed what I’ve always known; I do not have a mind for facts. Dates, boundaries, formulas, achievements and the like, all just slip through my little brain like water through a sieve. 

“Simpleminded” is more how I would describe myself. Oh, I was able to answer a few ( but very few) questions, such as, “What is the name of the bear that resides in Jelly Stone Park?” Yes, that was actually on a card I drew. And of course, “Yogi” slipped confidently from my eager lips. Let’s just say I didn’t come in first because that my friends, is the caliber of information that resides in my head.

“For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.”
John 3:16 (NIV)

Thank goodness the plan for salvation is not complicated and our pursuit of God is not based on formulas we must adhere to, achievements we must make, boundaries that keep us out, or dates we must meet. It is offered in a way that each of us can understand and recall.

Victory is simple. Confidently answering God’s call to believe Jesus is His Son who died for our sins is all we need to do to have eternal life with Him. Then my friends, everything that’s important will forever reside in our hearts. Because of God’s love, we win! Now, that’s a fact I’ll always remember! How about you?

Happy Valentine’s Day!

“I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 3:14

 

Always ~ Day 24 ~ 31 Day Writing Challenge

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“And do everything with love.” 1 Corinthians 16:14

 Always

Sometimes it seems I’m wearing a magnifying glass around my neck. Not really mind you, but I’ve always been in tune to the smallest details.  I tend to notice what others seemingly miss. Maybe it comes from being a perfectionist and a lifetime of always checking myself to be sure every little thing is right. I don’t know. But what I do know is, it comes alive when I’m looking through my camera lens.

Some of my favorite shots I’ve captured are of the tiny, intricate patterns on a flower petal, grains of sand on a seashell, or a raindrop hanging from a leaf. Recently though, something else hidden in the ordinary has begun to catch my eye: “God’s love messages.” Have you seen them? Hearts in unexpected places. Each time I’ve discovered one it’s reminded me that evidence of God’s love is everywhere!

Finding hearts isn’t the only way He shares love. He uses us, We are to be “God’s love messengers.” Have you been one? Am I? We may be the only affirmation of His love someone receives. 

“Dear friends, since God loved us that much, we surely ought to love each other. No one has ever seen God. But if we love each other, God lives in us, and his love is brought to full expression in us. 1 John 4:12-13 (NLT)

“So now I am giving you a new commandment: Love each other. Just as I have loved you, you should love each other. Your love for one another will prove to the world that you are my disciples.”
John 13:34-35 (NLT)

Sometimes it’s the smallest thing that makes the biggest impact. A smile at just the right time, a little extra in the tip, offering a prayer, cooking a meal, the list can go on and on.There’s no perfect way that we must deliver love, just that we do; and we don’t want to miss the opportunity to bring it to life in the ordinary, sharing the message that God’s love is offered to everyone, everywhere, for always!

“But love will last forever!” 1 Corinthians 13:8b (NLT)

 

Offer ~ Five Minute Friday

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What Do I Have to Offer?

“For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.” John 3:16 (NIV)/ Pixabay

What do I have to offer?
What could I possibly bring?
Fitting for the Savior,
Who offered ME everything!

I wish there was obedience
I could lay down at his feet.
If only my fears and failures
I could once and for all defeat.

Strength in every situation
Is what I’d like to give,
But weakness is the lowly place
Where I most often live.

What do I have to offer?
I’ve no riches nor sweet perfume.
No gift that could repay my debt
To He, who walked from the tomb.

Oh, to sing like the Angels,
Songs of praise He deserves to hear.
Or eloquent words of thanks spoken
With a voice so confident and clear.

Instead here I stand empty-handed,
With nothing to impart.
When a still small voice reminds me,
Grace is a gift from God’s own heart.

This gift to us was given
When Jesus hung upon that tree.
Because our God so loved the world,
We who believe are eternally debt free!

Now that the burden’s been lifted
What we have to offer comes from above.
Faith, hope, and mercy,
But the greatest offering is love!

“But when the kindness and love of God our Savior appeared, he saved us, not because of righteous things we had done, but because of his mercy.  He saved us through the washing of rebirth and renewal by the Holy Spirit, whom he poured out on us generously through Jesus Christ our Savior, so that having been justified by his grace, we might become heirs having the hope of eternal life.” Titus 3:4-7 (NIV)

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Just ~ Five Minute Friday/#Write28Days

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Just When You Least Expect It


 

“If your gift is that of serving others, serve them well. If you are a teacher, do a good job of teaching. If your gift is to encourage others, do it! If you have money, share it generously.  If God has given you leadership ability, take the responsibility seriously. And if you have a gift for showing kindness to others, do it gladly. Don’t just pretend that you love others. Really love them.  Hate what is wrong. Stand on the side of the good.  Love each other with genuine affection, and take delight in honoring each other.  Never be lazy in your work, but serve the Lord enthusiastically.” Romans 12:7-11(NIV) 

This is the scripture I used to describe my boss, my mentor, and my friend: Ken Price as I spoke at his funeral, fourteen years ago this week.

As a young teacher looking for a job, I’d about given up hope.  School had started in most districts and there I was still without a classroom. But then, just when I least expected it, my phone rang and Ken was on the other end offering me a job in West Virginia.  I immediately said yes! He drastically changed my life that day.  Not only did he give me the start to a career I loved which lasted 32 years;  he also had a hand in changing this city girl into a country girl and  introducing me to my husband. Ken pushed me to leave my comfort zone, think outside the box, and he continuously challenged me to be a better teacher and person. Somewhere in the process he became a treasured friend, both to me and my family.

The crowded gymnasium was alive with energy. Our daughter was in the middle of cheering the basketball team on to victory and we were joining in, shouting at the top of our lungs. Then in the midst of the excitement, just when I least expected it, news came that Ken, our Ken, had suddenly passed away. In that moment, I felt as if the basketball had hit me and knocked the air from my lungs. The cheering continued but I couldn’t hear a thing. Making my way out of the gym, I didn’t want it to be true. It was.  I prayed it was a mistake.  It wasn’t. And once again, my life changed that day.

As I stood on the stage in that same gymnasium a few days later, the crowd was quiet this time. Speaking from my heart, I shared how Ken had allowed me to be me without judgement. That he compelled me to expect more out of myself without condemning and how he shared his wisdom without reservation.

The truth is, my life would have been profoundly different had it not been for Ken Price. He possessed many of the Spiritual Gifts listed above and his spirit was a gift to me. Oh, how I wish I would have told him so when I had the chance. The anniversary of his death reminds me how very important it is to always let those who mean so much to us, know! Not just on holidays. Not someday. Not even tomorrow.

“Do not boast about tomorrow, for you do not know what a day may bring.” 
Proverbs 21:1(NIV)

Let me ask you: is there someone you’re thinking of as you read this? Please don’t wait! Tell them now; because you and I know that just when you least expect it, life changes and the chance is gone. So make the call, send the text, FaceTime, or wrap them in your arms. You won’t be sorry! And who knows? Maybe you’ll change a life, just like Ken did mine!

Why ~ Day 4 ~ 31 Days and Share Four Somethings

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This post is part of the October 2018 Edition of 31 Days of Five Minute Free Writes. I hope you”ll join me in seeing where each prompt takes us.
 P.S. Just so you know, I’m finding it difficult to stick to five minutes (**) and it may take me longer than the 31 days to finish all the prompts. Not easy for this rule follower!
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Why Not?

Why not take care of two things at once?  The prompt for today’s 31 Days of Free Writes is “Why” and it’s time to post my September edition of “Four Somethings” so I’ve decided to combine them in to one! I love it when things come together!  Don’t you?

~Something Loved~

 

Do you ever find yourself asking the question “why”? I think we all do. It’s a question I don’t really like though, because most often there isn’t a ready answer. That was the case for me in September.  We’d been planning our beach vacation to our favorite spot in North Carolina for months; then Florence made her grand entrance and changed everything. Don’t get me wrong: I’m grateful to only have lost a trip and not my belongings or life but I wonder of all weeks, why the storm had to come then? Continue reading →

Many Shades of Happy

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So, here we are…Poem #10!  Not bad in 15 days if I may say so myself!  This is a special poem at that!  In a little less than two months, my baby sister is going to be the “Mother of the Groom” as she watches her middle son get married.  From experience, I know there are many emotions that go along with having your child become someone’s spouse; thus the title:  Many Shades of Happy.  This one is for Barbie.

“For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh. Genesis 2:24 (NASV)

Many Shades of Happy

You carried him snuggled near your heart
and your heart is where he’ll stay.
Hockey falls and football scares
from the stands you’ve had to pray.

Middle child through and through
with an irresistible grin.
All grown up; teaching school
and coaching for the win!

Now here you are:  Mother of the groom
wondering where time has gone.
He’s planning life with someone new
while you watch him move on.

You’ve done your job so very well;
look on with cherished pride.
Your family’s growing larger,
making room for his sweet bride.

It’s a time for many shades of happy
and maybe a few momma’s tears.
Yes, in your heart he’s staying,
just adding more love to last through the years.

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